Why Making Decisions Feels So Heavy

Does even the thought of having to make a decision leave you feeling mentally exhausted?

Maybe you notice tightness in your chest, knots in your stomach, spiraling thoughts — or even a kind of total body shutdown.

You are not broken.
You are not incompetent.
And you are not alone.

Decisions feel so heavy not because you’re bad at making them, but because of the stories we attach to the decision itself:

• I might let someone down

• People will judge me for what I decide

• They’ll be disappointed in me

• I might make the “wrong” choice

• Everyone is counting on me

• No one will understand

• I don’t trust my own judgment

• I won’t be able to handle the regret

That’s a lot for one decision to carry.

Decision-making can be especially hard for people who are thoughtful, caring, and kind.

You want to consider other people’s feelings.
You want to do the “right” thing.
You want others to know that you care.

And somewhere along the way, the decision stops being about what you want — and starts feeling like a test of who you are.

Here’s the gentle truth:
Decisions don’t need to be perfect. They don’t need to be permanent.

You’re allowed to make the best decision you can with the information you have right now.
And you’re allowed to make a different decision later.

You’re not bad at making decisions.
You just care deeply.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be talking more about how to make decisions with less pressure and more confidence.

If this resonates with you and you’d like to explore it more deeply, you’re welcome to schedule a free consultation or a private session with me. I’m here for you.