The Myth of “The Right” Decision

Fear of making the wrong decision can feel overwhelming — especially when it seems like that decision won’t just affect you.

It feels like it will affect your kids.
Your partner.
Your parents.
Your coworkers.
Your friends.

Somewhere along the way, decisions stop being personal choices and start feeling like moral responsibilities. We begin to believe that other people’s emotional wellbeing rests on us — that if we choose poorly, we’ll hurt someone, disappoint someone, or cause damage we won’t be able to undo.

That’s a heavy burden for any one person to carry.

At the heart of this fear is a powerful belief: that there is a right decision and a wrong one.

And when we imagine the “right” decision, we often imagine something unrealistic — a choice that brings clarity, relief, joy, and universal understanding. A decision where there’s no conflict, no disappointment, no discomfort. Everyone agrees. Everyone feels good. Everyone lives happily ever after.

But that version of a “right” decision is a myth.

Real life doesn’t work that way.

In real life, you can make a decision that is deeply right for you and still disappoint someone you care about. You can follow what’s true in your heart and still be misunderstood. You can choose with integrity and still face disagreement, tension, or discomfort.

That doesn’t make your decision wrong.

Not everyone has to agree with your decision for it to be right for you.
Not everyone has to understand your why for you to honor what matters most to you.
Not everyone will like your choices — and that’s not a failure on your part.

You are allowed to choose based on what you know today, who you are today, and what feels aligned today. You are allowed to learn, adjust, and make new decisions later if needed.

Every decision does not have to be permanent.
Every decision does not define you.
And everybody’s future is not riding on you.

If making decisions feels heavy, it’s often because you’re carrying far more responsibility than is actually yours to hold.

You don’t need to find the “right” decision.
You need to find your decision — and trust that you can handle whatever comes next.

If this resonates with you, or you would like to explore this deeper in a private session, you can schedule with me here.