When It All Started to Click

Someone told me once, “you’re the meanest boss I’ve ever met - to yourself.”

It wasn’t until I started working with coaches and therapists that I realized how I treated myself. As I started to hear the stories I told about my past and my experiences, I started to notice how awful I was. The judgement, the unrealistic expectations and the lack of grace.

I was incredibly mean to myself!

I knew this was something I wanted to change -immediately. I deserved better. So, I started to pay attention.

• Every time I beat myself up

• Every time I shamed myself

• Every time I told myself to power through

• Every time I ignored my own needs

• Every time I expected to much of myself

I didn’t punish myself. I just became aware of what I was doing. And I started to speak to myself like a child. It was hard to keep a straight face at first. But over time, it became common practice.

• It’s okay

• I know

• You’re doing your best

• I’ve got you

And that’s when it all started to click. When I started to be more gentle with myself, it became easier to:

• set boundaries

• say no

• give myself grace

• trust my decisions

• have difficult conversations

• honor my needs

When I started to show myself compassion and respect, I started to value what was important to me and care less about making other people happy at my own expense.

If you struggle with setting boundaries, people-pleasing, trusting yourself, saying no and putting yourself first, I see you. And I can help.