Why Am I Like This?

For so many years, I was incredibly hard on myself — for having big emotions, for making simple mistakes, for being… well, human.

I thought being hard on myself would make me better, but all it really did was make me feel small.

It wasn’t until I started working with a life coach that I realized I wasn’t giving myself any grace at all. I’d catch myself asking:

“Why am I like this?”

But my why wasn’t coming from curiosity — it was coming from judgment. What I was really telling myself was:

• I should do better.

• I shouldn’t feel this way.

• I should have my act together.

Once I shifted from asking “Why am I like this?” to simply acknowledging “I am like this,” everything changed.

That small shift helped me get to know myself instead of trying to fix myself. I started offering the same understanding to me that I’d always given others — and grace began to come naturally.

Acceptance doesn’t mean I’ve stopped growing. It just means I’m no longer beating myself up for being who I am at my core.

My past experiences shaped how I feel, react, and respond. Knowing and accepting that allows me to be gentle with myself while I heal and learn new ways of showing up in the world.

If this resonates with you, and you’d like to learn how mindset shifts and simple tools can help you show up as your best self, I invite you to schedule a free consultation so we can chat about working together.