Trying To Do It All Is Draining You

If your to-do list feels endless, your energy feels non-existent, and you constantly feel like you’re falling short - you’re not inadequate, lazy or a hot mess.

Often, people-pleasing and perfectionism go hand in hand.

And trying to do it all isn’t just exhausting - it’s a survival strategy that once kept you safe. But now? It’s keeping you stuck.

Why You’re Trying To Do It All

We often feel responsible for keeping everyone happy, comfortable, and liking us. Add perfectionism to the mix, and you feel like you have to do it all - and flawlessly - just to feel enough.

“If I don’t do it, it won’t get done.”

“Everyone is counting on me.”

“I should be able to handle this.”

“I don’t want to bother anyone.”

This isn’t just about productivity, it’s about proving your worth by being helpful, capable and never dropping the ball.

The Cost of Overfunctioning

Trying to do it all doesn’t make you strong. It makes your burned out, resentful, and overwhelmed.

You say yes when you want to say no.

You show up for others and leave yourself behind.

You constantly feel behind, even when you’re doing your best.

The worst part? No one around you sees how much you’re carrying. You’re not asking for help. You’re telling them you’re fine. And you’re struggling.

You Can Still Care Without Carrying It All

Here’s the reframe:

You can still be kind without being constantly available.

You can still be responsible without overextending yourself.

You can still care deeply and say no.

Trying to do it all is a reflex and it’s something you can unlearn.

What You Can Do Now

Here’s how recovery starts - with one tiny decision at a time.

Look at your to-list - mental or written - and choose one thing you can delete, delay or delegate.

Ask yourself what you would do if you weren’t trying to prove anything.

Decide what asking for help can look like.

You weren’t meant to do it all.

If this resonates with you, we may be a good fit to work together. I invite you to schedule a free consultation call with me to meet, talk about what you are navigating right now and see if I’m the right coach for you. I can’t wait to meet you.