I Know I Should Just Get Over It

As a coach, I have the pleasure of supporting each of my clients through their own unique experiences.

And even though each person is different - with different struggles, obstacles and goals - I often hear commonalities in all of them.

I hear similar thoughts, phrases and self-talk.

I hear common limiting beliefs.

One that I hear often is:

I know I should just get over it.

When a client tells me they should ‘just get over it,’ what I often hear underneath are thoughts like: “I’m overreacting. My feelings don’t matter. I shouldn’t take up space.”

It is so common for us to judge ourselves not only for how we feel, but also for how much we feel.

But here is what I want to offer you:

Having feelings is just part of the human experience. You are not a robot; you are human.

Your feelings don’t mean anything about who you are as a person. They’re not right or wrong, good or bad — they’re simply human.

Everything you are feeling is okay.

Instead of telling yourself ‘I should just get over it,’ try reminding yourself: I’m allowed to feel this. My feelings are valid. From there, you can decide what to do next — but it doesn’t start with shame. It starts with compassion.

If you notice yourself thinking, ‘I should just get over it,’ pause and remember — feelings aren’t obstacles to be conquered, they are messages to be heard. And learning how to listen with compassion is a skill you can build. It’s one of the most powerful shifts I help my clients make.

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