How I Started Talking to Myself Like Someone I Love

Do you ever catch yourself saying mean things to yourself — things you would never in a million years say to a friend?

I did.

And honestly, I didn’t even realize I was doing it… until I started working with a life coach.

When I finally noticed it, I felt sad.

I couldn’t believe I was letting anyone — especially myself — treat me that way.

I deserved better.

So, I started working on changing it — right away.

Here’s what I did:

I started speaking to myself like I would to a child.
This looked like using kind words, a gentle tone, and showing lots of compassion.

I began validating my emotions instead of judging them.
Especially when I was feeling anxious, I reminded myself that my feelings were real and that I had a right to feel them.

I started celebrating myself out loud.
It sounded like:

“Good job.”
“You did it!”
“Way to go.”

At first, it felt a little silly. I wasn’t used to hearing kind words from myself. But over time, it became a habit. Now? I speak to myself like I’m a superstar — because I am.

And you are too.

If this resonates with you — or if you’re curious about how life coaching might help you shift the way you treat yourself — I’d love to invite you to connect.

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Let’s chat and see if I’m the right coach for you.

I can’t wait to meet you.