When People are Uncomfortable with Your Emotions

Have you ever opened up to a friend, coworker, or even a parent, only to have them say something like, “You’ll be fine,” or “It could be worse,” or “Just be grateful for what you have”?

It can be so frustrating! You finally let your guard down, shared something real, and instead of comfort or understanding, you get a quick fix or a pep talk. It can leave you wondering if you said too much.

But let me be clear:

You’re not doing anything wrong by having feelings.

The truth is, most people are uncomfortable with emotions—especially when they don’t know how to handle their own. We live in a culture that teaches us to move on, stay positive, and look for the bright side. So when someone hears your pain, they might rush to make it go away, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know what else to do.

It’s not your job to make your feelings easier for someone else to handle.

Your emotions don’t make you needy or dramatic. They make you human.

So the next time someone responds in a way that leaves you feeling unseen, take a breath and remind yourself:

This isn’t about me.
I’m allowed to feel what I feel.
I don’t have to shrink to make others comfortable.

Your emotions deserve space.

And the more you practice giving yourself permission to feel, the less you’ll look for others to validate your feelings.

If this resonates with you: start noticing the moments when you hold back your emotions out of fear of being “too much.” What if, instead, you trusted that your feelings are valid—even if others don’t know how to respond to them?

This is exactly the kind of work I help my clients with: learning to trust themselves, honor their emotions, and stop shrinking to keep the peace. If you’re ready to start, I’d love to help you take that next step. Schedule your free consultation here.